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Posted at , 22 January 2010 by Lily Barclay - Writer, bbcgoodfood.com

In my opinion, phones and eating go about as well together as drinking and driving. So I was a bit shocked when my friend had a long chat on her mobile at the end of lunch in an Italian restaurant. After an unneeded trip to the bathroom to try to while away the time, she was still talking, and I was starting to feel annoyed.

If you have to take a call when you're eating out, I think the least you can do is take it away from the table, and try to keep it brief. But recently I've noticed the presence of mobile phones sitting on the side of the table is almost as common as the salt and pepper.

Open quotationYou're really not fooling anybody into thinking they have your full attentionClose quotation

Some people might think that sending some discreet texts under the table is excusable, but I'd like to point something out - fiddling around and staring into your lap looks a bit strange, and you're really not fooling anybody into thinking they have your full attention.

I've got one male friend who let out an unexpected shriek halfway through dinner, which was fairly alarming until I realised it was a reaction to his iPhone football score update.

And I don't think he is the only one who finds it hard to switch off... if no-one can remember the name of last year's Big Brother winner, iPhones are whipped out by their tender-eyed owners to demonstrate their instant speed and cleverness.

Some have been known to give a live Twitter feed on the merits of each course of their meal. It's almost as annoying as having a chat with a friend in a bar, while her eyes fervently dart around behind your head on the lookout for an attractive man... it's not multi-tasking at its best.

I know that nowadays it's difficult for people to disconnect themselves from the online world, but if it's at the expense of losing connection to the very real, social world around you, I'm not sure it's worth the price.

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  • 22 January 2010, 12:52PM

    Stavros

    Open QuoteI like the intentional pun in the Leave a comment box, " Does it ring true for you". And yes, it does ring true, I was having a few pints and some dinner with a couple of friends the other evening when one of them cracked out his iPhone and began using Facebook! Makes you question how interesting you really are when your mates would rather randomly browse facebook than interact with you in the real world! I can understand the need to keep abreast of the football/cricket/rugby scores on the go, but its just plain rude when having dinner with somebody...

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  • 22 January 2010, 4:40PM

    miniminx

    Open Quotei wish iphones had never been invented. i'm convinced iphone owners are the evangelists of our time...do you get a free 'app; for every poor sod you try and convert, or something? extra points if it's done over dinner? the next time an iphone appears on the dining table, i'm dunking it in the water jug.

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  • 22 January 2010, 5:53PM

    Cassandra Amy Rose

    Open QuoteOn a totally random subject to the one above, can you freeze fish Cakes? I'm inspired by all the lovely recipes on BBC good food!

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  • 23 January 2010, 10:51AM

    Pip-a-doodle

    Open QuoteI think that people are beginning to loose grip on reality with their phones. I have been in several business lunches when mobiles have not only rung, but the ignorant person has actually answered the call! To do this to someone that you have chosen to spend time with, is just the height of bad manners. Phones have a silent setting for a damn good reason. Your Phone is still working and when an opportunity arises, then you can check what is going on. Not whilst your so called friend is sat opposite you!

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  • 24 January 2010, 1:35PM

    Belit

    Open QuoteIf I'm out to dinner or lunch with someone, then live company certainly has priority over virtual company. Then again, it does happen that I actually must be available on the phone for whatever reason in such situations. Especially at lunch time because that is, after all, working hours. If that is the case, my rule is to notify my company if I'm expecting a call that I'm obliged to take, use the meeting mode on the phone, and keep any conversation short and preferrably away from the table and dining room. If possible, as short as "Can I get back to you in a little while?". Texts should not be answered unless it's absolutely necessary, and in such case should be apologized for. Those are my rules and I think they work pretty well.

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  • 25 January 2010, 8:07AM

    Nicola

    Open QuoteAhh, I cant stand when people you are with have long or frequent mobile conversations, particularly if you are at the dinner table! I have one friend who frequently has more than 1 conversation with the same family member during a meal...and it doesn't even sound like anything urgent! I don't see the problem with switching it off, or at least on silent for a couple of hours and then calling back later! She does alawys say sorry at the end, but if she really felt bad about it, then I don't think it would happen in the first place! If I ever open a restaurant my first rule is NO MOBILE PHONES!!

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  • 26 January 2010, 11:57AM

    Jill B

    Open QuoteIF it is essential that one has to be in constant contact with family or business then calls at mealtimes should be kept to a minimum. I have a friend whose husband, whom she saw an hour ago, always calls her when we are out to lunch and they chat away as if parted for days! We finally had words about it!! I took my daughter and a friend out to an expensive restaurant for dinner recently and, after the third mobile interruption, informed them that if they used these instruments of the devil again during the meal I would walk out and leave them with the bill. The rest of the meal went off in peace and they were not struck down by a thunderbolt!!!!

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  • 26 January 2010, 4:34PM

    annadg

    Open QuoteOh I so agree ... and that is from someone who always has her Blackberry to hand ! But -both my partner and I need to be in touch with work and the B/berry enables us to do that and still have lots of lovely freedom to travel, so we have our own strict rules. Phones may be looked at ONLY if a) both agree and both do it to check all is ok or b) partner has gone off to the loo or something! Same if we are with other people. A very (very) quick check of emails is undertaken but phone calls at the table are incredibly rude. I am there to enjoy the company of the person I am with thank you, not to natter on the **** phone!

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  • 27 January 2010, 2:45PM

    Pauline

    Open QuoteI think there is a time and place for phones, and when you are out to dinner with other people , its not one of them. Unless its the baby sitter or an emergency let the caller leave a message. that's what the answer phone is for.

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    27 January 2010, 6:17PM

    SUE

    Open QuoteI LOVE the new Sudafed advert, where one woman is talking for 10 or 15 minutes, and the woman opposite her blows hard and send her and the desk flying backwards across the room.

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  • 28 January 2010, 12:47AM

    James

    Open QuoteJust rude. Worst one was someone who answered their phone & had a long chat while I was supposed to interviewing them. Goodbye! Do we need social training or something?

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  • 28 January 2010, 10:06AM

    Lorna

    Open QuoteI think it is so rude when someone answers a mobile phone in a restaurant. The fact that it rings at all, but when someone answers it too is really going too far. It is not the time or the place when out with friends/loved ones, to interupt a conversation with a phone call - unless off course it is an emergency as someone else mentioned, and in this case, the individual should move away from the table. If your life is too busy to find an hour to be detached from the rest of the world, then I'm sorry but please stay at home, and don't interupt the pleasant evening that your guest/other diners have come out to enjoy.

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  • 29 January 2010, 11:58AM

    Kelly=)

    Open QuoteI think it is beyond rude to answer your phone, I even find it an insult if someone gets it out merely to have a "look". When I am having a meal or lunch with someone, I do the respectful thing and turn mine on silent. Now I own a good popular phone which I rely upon alot, and have no problem with phones. But when on a social visit, i do not tolerate phone usage. It's as bad as talking with your mouth full of food. Now do not get me started on that...

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  • 3 February 2010, 9:28PM

    kit kat

    Open QuoteI think that you shouldnt answer the phone at the table unless its very important. I agree with sue the add about the woman on the phone forever is brill its classic.!!!

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  • 9 February 2010, 6:49PM

    Claire

    Open QuotePhones in restaurants are only part of the problem. How many times have you tried to pass some ditz in the supermarket while she meanders all over the aisle, nattering loudly on her phone? Then there's the train. Thank goodness the other day I packed a good book and iPod, it drowned out the woman behind me who was discussing her latest doctor's appointment...and it wasn't her podiatrist! I welcome the day when establishments will be able to block mobile phone signals to enforce the 'Please turn off your phone' signs.

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    28 April 2010, 5:42PM

    Eva

    Open QuoteMy husband runs his own business, that's his excuse for putting his i-phone AND blackberry on the restuarant table before he even sits down when we got out for a romatic? dinner . If anyone, like his adult son, points out how rude he's being he gets all wounded and claims he has to constantly available to his clients. Which means he can't really spare the time to have dinner me, can he?

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  • 16 October 2010, 2:30PM

    vjforsy

    Open QuoteWhen I eat out at a restaurant I always either switch my phone off, or to silent - just the same as I would do at the theatre or cinema. However, despite this courtesy, it is unusual to be eating out and have to put up with the annoyance of other people's mobiles ringing (and the extremely loud conversation which usually follows). Just as annoying are the conversational texters - who due to having a complete conversation via text, have their phone beeping about once every 30 seconds.

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